Mamas, we know our families, or at least we should. We are the ones that keep our home life fueled, running as smoothly as we can make it. We know about what are kids are facing, their triumphs and struggles. We should know when our children are having issues with school and friends. We should take time to understand our husbands schedule and job. This will help us to help them learn to be content in all things. God called us to be helpers to our husbands. No, he did not call us to be doormats to our husbands. We are to help them, lift them up, encourage them, and sometimes get them back on track.
Our homes should be a safe haven for our families to be exactly who they are. They should not have to put up any walls or pretenses in their own home. They should feel safe and secure to let their guard down and be open and honest about the goings on in their lives. It is our job to create this atmosphere. Our husbands should feel safe and secure to be vulnerable in your presence. He should feel that you are his safe place to not put on a front of who others think he should be. If he is frustrated with his job, he should be able to tell you this without feeling judged. Ladies, it is a lot to take on, but we should be ready for the task to help our family be content.
Talk to your children individually. Ask them about their day. Talk to them about their friends. Ask the hard questions when necessary, but do not force them to answer. Sometimes, it takes some time to even have the answer to those hard questions, even more so for a child who is just now facing some tough decisions. Give wise advice, not emotional advice. We want to protect our children. We have a tendency to go to mama bear mode when our children are hurt. It is possible that the child on the other side of the situation is hurting just as much as your own child. It is hard to swallow words that we want to spew, but spewing those words do not help our child in their hurt.
Get in tune with your husband, to the best of your ability. Ask him about his job and the goings on, but not right as he walks in the door. Give him some time to just sit and be quiet and tune out life for a little bit. Sit next to him on the couch, but do not say anything, unless he talks first. Ladies, we usually talk WAY more than them. Before you go to sleep, ask him how you can pray for him. If he does not know, just tell him to think about it and let you know. Don't force him or nag him about it.
Keeping up with our family and their relationships outside of the family can help you keep track of the contentment in your home. Be there. Be engaged in each person in your household. You are the glue that holds it all together. You have God on your side to help you get through it!
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